Training for the Olympics

Happy Anniversary

Today is our 5 year anniversary! Wow - I can't believe it has been 5 years! (I would add a picture from our wedding day, but we got married right before the digital photo boom). Anyway, to celebrate this special day, we went to the Missouri Botanical Gardens for a nice walk. It was beautiful. We also brought Preston so that he could enjoy the garden :) I ended up taking these sweet pictures of him as Steven fed him. I told Steven this morning that I didn't get him a gift. He was so sweet to remind me that Preston was the best gift I could give him. I love my husband! Enjoy the photo's and we will try to enjoy the rest of our day!

Friday is Culture Day!

As of today, I am going to make Friday Culture Day! Today's culture piece - music.

I watched a live musical performance of Katy Perry on the Today Show this morning. Check out www.todayshow.com and click on the Concert Series Link to watch this performance. Katy peformed her summer single "I kissed a girl" and then gave a short response to Matt Lauer about her song and the message it sends to the listening world. Lyrics in this song include 'I kissed a girl, and I liked it. The taste of her cheery chapstick. I kissed a girl, just to try it. I hope my boyfriend don't mind it. It felt so wrong, it felt so right, don't mean I'm in love tonight'. Side note - Go look up the lyrics (www.lyrics.com) and read more of this window into today's culture. Matt asked Katy if she was worried at all about the message this song sends to her listeners or if she felt her music has to be separated from message. Katy responded with saying that she 'always speaks from the heart/she doesn't really censor herself and that is what she feels like is missing from music these days". Hmm, interesting... Here is her single cover picture...again, interesting.



So, what do I think?

First, what does Katy mean when she talks about 'speaking from the heart'? I love the quote from scripture that says "Out of the heart, the mouth speaks'. We can certainly get an idea of what is in her heart. It appears as though her moral compass is broken and that she supports the 'whatever' attitude in life. Does she see any consequenses to her message?

Second, I don't think Katy has much integrity to her music...what a casual attutude she has toward things that are very offenseive to many people. Girls kissing other girls is not my idea of fun nor would I just 'try it'. Her song goes on to say that this behavior is 'no big deal and its innocent'. What is innocent about this behavior? In my opinion, its just not the way things were intended to work. Sure, the song is catchy and has a good beat, but does that trump everything else? Do we buy/listen to music because it is cute and has a catchy beat? What ever happened to talent and creativity?

Third, I don't know about you, but my husband WOULD mind if I kissed a girl just to 'try it'. I'm sure many other husbands/boyfriends would mind if their girlfriend was engaging in such casual and emotionaly harmful behavior.

Fourth, there are a lot of people who sing this song and I wonder if they have really thought about what they are singing. If you watch the video, you will see 10 year old girls singing this song. Do these young girls know what they are singing? Is someone talking to these 10 year olds about the REAL impact this behavior can have on their lives and the lives of others?

Ok, thats all for now. Please also check out Walt Mueller's comments about this song/artist on his blog. I also highly recommend www.cpyu.org for ways that we can engage with culture. Oh yes, I am not afraid of this song. I think it is important that we listen to it, discover what message it sends and decide how we will respond to that message. I think that is a good model for how we should engage with all types of culture.

Ahhh

For a while today, Steven took Preston so I could have some 'Katrina Time'. It was lovely! I went and got a pedicure - ahhh! I also picked up some photo's that I had developed for Preston's baby book. It was nice to get out of the house. So, when I returned home - I felt a bit more rested and was ready to hold my little man. Sometimes we all need a little time for ourselves so that we can re - charge our batteries. I think I would have been headed for meltdown today if Steven had not stepped up to the plate. (I love my husband). I would not be a good mom if I tried to do everything myself. I need my husband and others to step in and help. When I got home from my time to myself, Preston was taking a nap - awesome. Oh yes, I posted a really cool video of Preston on Facebook. It was too big to post on blogger - so if you have facebook - check it out!

Smile

Thank Heaven for Little Boys

Awake time

Sleep time

I don't care if he is awake or sleeping, I thank heaven for our little boy.

Feeding

I want to take a moment to share my feelings about a sensitive topic related to being a new mom. Many people, and I'm not sure why, have been asking me about how and what I am feeding my baby (i.e. breast milk or formula) While many are just asking out of curiosity, there are many who ask out of a desire to express their own opinion about the topic - and there are many opinions. I feel as though there is a hint of confusion that comes out in their questions or response to my method. I get some interesting looks when I tell people how I am feeding my child. Let me explain what I am doing: I am feeding my child my milk through a bottle. (thank goodness for the Medela Pump n Style). This method is working very well for our family. This style, while not common, is used by moms - I just don't think people hear about it that often or it isn't talked about. Here are some benefits of our chosen feeding method:

1. I am being economically friendly - my milk is free!
2. Both Steven and I are able to feed Preston
3. I can take my child out in public and feel comfortable feeding him.
4. I am bonding with my child my looking at him while we are feeding
5. I have 3 weeks worth of milk storred up in my freezer!
6. My child has gained over 2lbs in 2 weeks

While I support all methods of feeding, I just wanted to share my feelings about the response to my method. It's a bit irritating to hear so many people ask me if I am nursing my child and why I would pump my milk and then feed it to my child instead of having him take it from me directly. People think all sorts of stuff like; I am not 'bonding' with my child or they are concerned that my milk will decrease, etc... (None of these concerns are valid in my opinion) I just feel like their questions or comments are not necessary. Perhaps its my style or personality, but I would NEVER question or challenge someone's method to feeding their child. Most often, I just don't ask and trust that they are doing well. I may ask out of curiosity but that is all. Come on, its not really my business to know what someone else is doing. I hope we can all be a bit more sensitive and supportive to those who make different decisions about how and what to feed their children. I think that would make new mom's feel more supported in this crazy time of life.

Doctor & Diploma

Steven and I took Preston for his 3 week check up today. He now weighs 8lbs 6oz. That means he has gained over a pound a week - way to go Preston! He also has grown 2 inches and is up to 22 inches long. I am so thankful that we have a happy and healthy boy! I have more pictures and will update you with those later today or tomorrow.

Oh yes, I also wanted to announce that Steven has officially graduated from Covenant Seminary with his Masters in Counseling! He has his diploma and now he is on his way to becomming a licensed practicing counselor. This may take a few years, but we are both so thankful that he is finished with school. Steven is much happier without papers and tests looming over his head.

Little Blue Shoe

I took this sweet picture today as Preston wore his little blue shoes for the first time. I love these shoes! I took Preston to Walgreens today to get some photo's developed but unfortunately one important photo on the CD would not print because it had been cropped. I think it was the Walgreens machine and I will take the cd to Shillers tomorrow. I don't know why I went to Walgreens in the first place. They are a great place to pick up random items, but when it comes to their photo department - they are not for the photography friendly. Anyway, that was my big adventure for today.

Awake

Preston was wide awake for about an hour this afternoon so we had some 'play time'. I love watching him move his little arms and legs. I also love his sweet eyes - you can't help but just stare back at him. Enjoy the photo's!

Swing

Today I tried to put Preston in his new swing (thank you Hannah and Courtney) and he liked it. He stayed in it for over an hour while I folded laundry and cleaned up my room. What a blessing this swing has become - what a blessing this swing will be in the weeks/years ahead. Oh yes, I couldn't resist taking a picture of this - I wonder if he thinks this is a roller coaster? I'm sure he will enjoy the theme parks when he gets older.

Steven and I went over to Grammie and Grandpa's house last night for a visit. We enjoyed watching the Olympics on TV and chatting about what is going on outside of the baby world. Uncle Eric was also there with his friend Jenny. Now, when we are at the Dalbey house - we have no fear of being ourselves - as is demonstrated by this picture of Steven and Preston. What goofy men I have in my life :) I love them!

2 Weeks Old

Today was Preston's 2 week Birthday. We spent the day hanging low around the house - which included about 3 naps and many feedings. I can see him getting bigger and stronger every day. Some major developments include his umbilical cord falling off today and he lifted his head up when he was lying on his tummy on dad. This kid is strong! Steven and I also took Preston to Forest Park for a short walk. He enjoyed the ride and mom and dad enjoyed getting out of the house. Oh, it is so beautiful right now in St. Louis and I am so thankful. I think I may try the Botanical Gardens very soon. Anyway, enjoy this short video clip taken from today!

Great Grandparents

This week, Preston met his Great Grandparents. 4 generations in one pictures - very cool!

Preston with mom, Grandma Denton and Great Grandma Koslow


Preston with mom, dad and his great grandparents

Ok - I'm tired

I'm tired. I think the picture says it all. If you call me - you most likely will get my voice mail.

The Olympics

This week I have been watching the Olympics - all the time! The TV is set to NBC and I have watched just about everything - swimming, gymnastics, cycling, rowing, volleyball, etc... Watching the Olympics has been a great form of entertainment as I am home taking care of baby Preston. I can't imagine the past week and a half without the Olympics.

I remember when I was a little girl being facinated with the Olympics. I had great dreams of being an Olympic gymnast like Mary Lou Retton or Kerri Strug. Well, that didn't happend - but thats ok. My life is still valuable and meaningful even though these Olympic dreams didn't materialize. I think watching the Olympics can encourage hard work, determination and courage in young people - as I know it encouraged these life characteristics in me.

I'm also struck by athletes like Michael Phelps, Natalie Caughlin, Shawn Johnson and many others. These athlets seem to demonstrate a love for their sport, a team mindset and a healthy view of competition. I am thankful for these athletes and their impact on young people. So often, athletics is all about competition and winning and less about love for sport, healthy living and hard work. I hope these athletes, and many others, can continue to encourages these healthy characteristics listed above and many others. Enjoy watching the Olympics and go team USA!

New Favorite Picture

Today, Steven and I had lunch my my dad - Grandpa Denton - and he gave us a CD of photo's he took the first day Preston was born. The picture above is my new favorite. I just love how sweet he looks all swaddled in the blanket with his head up facing me. He looks so peaceful. I continue to have these peaceful moments with Preston as we spend time together. He is a very good baby - at least I think he is a good baby. I continue to enjoy our time together.

Bath Time

Steven and I gave Preston his first Bath today and he LOVED it. He was so cute to watch as we washed his hair, cleaned his arms & legs, and put lotion on his little tummy. He just stared at us. I hope he always enjoys bath time - I know I did. Enjoy the photo's.

Just a quick note - Steven and I are doing well. We are starting to get into a 'routine' and enjoy learning all that we can about our new addition to the family. Steven went back to work today and I did very well holding down the fort at home. I spent a good part of my day just reading and enjoying this new pace of life. Oh yes, mny of you know that I don't intend on making this a 'Preston' only blog but since this is what is going on in our lives at the moment, this is what I blog about. The Dalbey Trio is happy and healthy.

1 Week

Well, its been 1 week since Preston entered our lives and SO MUCH has changd. For example:

1. I'm learning how to live on very little sleep.

2. I find myself staring at a person for long hours - that is normal and expected.

3. I don't know what time it is during most of the day.

4. Leaving the house to run an erand to Target takes careful planning.

5. 45 minutes to myself is awesome.

There have even been days the past week where I can't remember what my life was like before Preston arrived. I have enjoyed the past week and look forward to many more weeks and years ahead. Here are some pictures from today!

Preston taking a nap - on his side!

Lindon and Megan came for a visit.

Cousins Ben and Erin also came for a visit. (We had such a great time chatting with them).

Preston and mommy :)

Friends

Many dear friends have stopped by to visit the Dalbey Trio this week. We have really enjoyed these visits and sharing our joy with those we love. What a beautiful picture of community! Steven and I look forward to more visitors in the next few weeks.

Here is Elijah...one of Preston's friends.

Mallory, Grace and Lucy. These girls have been begging Steven and I to have children for years. (Since they were in 6th grade...now they are in 11th grade). Thank you for begging.

Here is Leah! She was at camp and couldn't visit in the hospital - so we got a house call :)

Megan came by on Saturday for a visit and even did some house work. THANK YOU!

Some of the freshman girls from Youth Group. (Maggie, Rachael, Laura, Megan & Lucy)

The Duke family! Thank you for your consistent support and encouragement.

Kaylie...you know you love this kid!

How are we doing?

The Dalbey Trio has been home for 2 1/2 days...what an amazing, interesting, exhausting, emotional and joyful 2 1/2 days. This morning Steven and I were eating breakfast together. When I began to pray, the only thing I could utter through my tears were 'God, thank you that Preston is here'. I was crying because I am so thankful that Preston made it here safely and that I wanted to do everything I could to take care of him. I love this boy so much! Steven also had a moment of tears today. Preston swallowed a little too much milk at a feeding and had to cough. Steven was so afraid that something was wrong or that he couldn't breath. Steven told me that he just wanted to make sure that everything was going to be ok. I guess you could say that Steven and I are on a huge journey and we are learning as we go.

I want to take a brief moment and share some personal things that I am learning through this experience the past few days. I am learning that taking care of my child does not requre perfection. I think love, effort, compassion and patience are more important than getting everything right. I am also learning to trust myself more. I say this because there are so many resources about parenting/taking care of a child (books, people, clubs, etc...) and while each mean well, it can be overwhelming for someone likes me who wants to do things the 'right' way. I think its important to trust my own instincts and to love my child to the best of my ability.

Ok, I am tired and I do want to show some updated photo's. Enjoy!

Preston, Steven and Grandma & Grandpa Dalbey (Taken on day of Birth)

Preston, Steven & Katrina w/ Grandpa Denton (Taken on day of Birth)

Preston w/ Grandma Denton

Preston w/ Aunt Tracey

Preston smiling - this one made me laugh

Time for bed!

We are Home

Today, Steven and I came home with Preston from the hospital. I am so glad to be home and have more privacy. Its hard to be in the hospital with dozens of nurses and other staff coming in your room all the time. Yes, they have a very important job to do, but its just hard when you want a minute alone and someone wants to give you something or check something, etc... I will say, I am very thankful for some of the ladies who helped answer my questions and who were very compassionate and encouarging. Here are a few pictures from the ride home and our first afternoon as a family of three! Oh yes, I also wanted to thank everyone for their encouraging emails, facebook posts and comments. I am looking forward to seeing more friends in the days and weeks to come.


Preston is so tiny!

I just love him!

A father and son...beautiful

More updates on Dalbey's

Today has been a very good day for the Dalbey family.

Preston continues to learn how to nurse and has passed all his routine tests here at the hospital with flying colors. He is a very good baby (so far) and just loves to be snuggled with.

Steven just loves singing to Preston and has been very helpful with any need. He has especially enjoyed some of the visitors who have come to bring encouragement and love.

Katrina continues to recover and has also enjoyed all the visitors. She just loves cuddling with Preston and watching him sleep.

Our plan is to go home from the hospital tomorrow. We are super excited to introduce Preston to his room, the dogs and feel more like a family.

Here are some pictures from our sweet friends who came to visit us today! We love them each dearly and are so thankful for their love and support.

Katrina and Judy

Katrina with Emma, Haley and Heather

Katrina with Grace, Mallory, Lucy and Julia

Preston Update

Steven and I continue to settle into the hospital and are doing well. We are still super tired but just can't stop looking at our sweet boy and thanking the Lord for his goodness and grace in our lives. We are also looking forward to greeting many of our friends tomorrow as they come to visit. Many of these dear friends have been praying for us and for Preston for many months. This is certainly a time to celebrate. I also have couple more cute pictures. Enjoy.

Preston is here!

Preston Charles Dalbey arrived today, August 4th at 2:15pm. He weighs 6lbs 8oz and is 20 1/4 inches long. He is healthy and happy and super cute! Mom and dad are doing well - we are tired but super thankful for a beautiful son. We will give more details later - but please enjoy the photo's.

fastest/slowest 12hrs ever

i can't believe how fast and slow the time here has gone by. at about 4:30 this morning, katrina's bag of waters was broken and she was about 3 cm dilated at that point. she now has her epidural in and is catching some much needed zzzz's to prepare for the work ahead. we will conintue to keep you posted. thanks for your prayers and love. feel free to leave a comment if you'd like. on a personal note, I (steven) feel like i am on a middle school overnighter that i get no sleep on.
steven

At the Hospital part 2

I wish there was more to tell you other than: things are continuing to progress. the contractions are getting more intense and all three of us are doing well. katrina is handling everything like a champ! continue to pray and wait with us :) thanks!
thats all for now
steve

At the Hospital

We arrived at the hospital today and have begun the process of the final stages of having the baby. The room that we have been put in for delivery is very nice and has plenty of space. Thankfully, the nurse staff we are working with is very kind and understanding, not to mention skilled. Both Katrina and I feel good about the way that things are going today. We will continue to give you updates as they become available. Finally, we appreciate your prayers and look forward to giving you good news!

Steve